I have been married to my wife for 30 years.  The last 20 in traditional counseling.  My wife has some emotional baggage from her upbringing. It was easy to blame this as the root of our relationship issues. After going through six different counselors, we were still stuck in our respective behavior loops.  It felt like we always ended up in the same unhappy “dance.”

My most recent counselor suggested that at times when clients hit a stalemate, a different therapist with an alternative therapy can help open doors.  The word “woo-woo ” was used to let me know that it would be different from what I was used to, but could lead to breakthroughs.

Enter Ren and Theta. Ren was very good at verbally following the belief systems of my subconscious and using muscle testing to confirm we were on the right track.  I have done about five Theta sessions with Ren.  A few things that stand out…

• The muscle testing DOES give an accurate insight into the belief system you are emotionally reacting to.
• You can have an effective Theta session over the phone. The muscle testing still works.  I started with in person sessions and then switched to phone sessions for convenience.
• The belief system that guides your emotional reactions likely does not match what you would have said you believe in.
• After a session, I felt similar physically to really good manual body therapy-relaxed, sleepy, thirsty and not necessarily a clear memory of what was addressed.
• The emotional rewards are immediate, but it does not feel like a conscious change you are making.  You don’t feel like “I did Theta and now feel a certain way.”  It is more like you are just naturally walking through new emotional doors that are not booby trapped with your long standing emotional triggers.

In my particular case, I was interpreting my wife’s behavior as meaning she does not value me.  My emotional reaction to believing I was not valued was frustration.  My frustration did not allow my wife an emotionally safe environment to work through her feelings. We are on a journey together now. My wife’s childhood baggage is a big player in our journey.  Theta has helped me be a husband that can love her through the journey

James S, – Leadership Team, HEB